7 things to do if you get married in 2023
Hope, 2023 is off to a wonderful start for you. Although you
have some resolutions of your own, there are others that you haven't considered
yet, but this is helpful for engaged couples getting ready for their 2022
wedding. Here are some goals related to your relationship to help ensure your
marriage and marriage are a rousing success!
When was the last time you spent a significant amount of time with your fiancé without the TV on, the phone buzzing or a bunch of other distractions? In 2022, set a resolution to intentionally spend time together where distractions are not allowed. Phones must be on silent, the TV must be off, and you must make eye contact when you speak. You might be surprised how quickly it helps you feel closer to your partner.
2. Try something new
Stepping outside one's comfort zone isn't easy for anyone, but doing it alongside the love of your life makes it more enjoyable and helps you two bond even more. Set a schedule for how many times you want to try something completely new—either one or both of which you've never done. It can be daily, weekly, monthly or every three months. Jot down some ideas if it helps and pick them out of a jar when it's time to try a new activity together
3. Have purposeful date nights
Remember when you two started getting to know each other? Remember how intentional your hangouts were? Maybe they weren't official "dates" to begin with, but you were excited about hanging out and you made some effort to make sure what you did was enjoyable. Try putting some of that effort into your date night today. Plan something that your fiancé will enjoy and encourage them to do the same. Have regular dates.
4. Listen without thinking about how to respond When you're actually listening to your loved one, it's easy to think you're trying to think of what to say next. Practice listening to your partner more and pay attention to what they are saying when they are talking. You'll both start to feel like you know them better...because you do!
5. Communicate your feelings
One of the main reasons couples fight is poor communication. Help de-escalate your fights by clearly communicating your feelings without falling into the habit of passive aggression or resentment. The silent treatment never solves a problem, but communicating honestly with your partner can solve a lot!
6. Value your alone time
No, it doesn't mean spending time alone with your partner. It means spending time alone with yourself. It stands to reason that your fiance is the person you love, but you want to make sure you're healthy and happy too. Check in with yourself every once in a while. Make sure you do things you enjoy doing—maybe it's going for a walk, drawing, playing sports, etc. Sometimes it's okay to do things your partner won't do with you Make sure you both have your own interests and goals.
7. Have fun "punishment" activities
Instead of constantly getting on each other's nerves about little habits that drive each other crazy—like not leaving socks on the floor or cleaning hair out of the shower drain—make a game out of it. This helps keep low-level annoyances actually low, rather than allowing them to build up into bigger frustrations. Whenever low-level arousal occurs, the offender pulls a paper out of a jar and has to perform the activity. Ideas for what to include in the jar might be, "rub your partner's back," "make dinner," or "buy their favorite drink."
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